# Perception (Rather Than Intent) We all have those moments. The ones where we feel like we tripped and stumbled, maybe even fell flat on our face. We call them "failures". But what if, instead of viewing these moments as definitive setbacks, we saw them as opportunities to learn and grow? Recently, I had one of those moments. I reacted emotionally to a situation, letting my feelings guide my words and actions. Looking back, it wasn't productive. It didn't help me achieve what I wanted, and it likely caused unnecessary tension. > People are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them. \- Epictetus This experience got me thinking about the power of our perceptions; our reactions are often shaped more by how we interpret a situation than by the situation itself; the power is the fact that our perception is something we can control. From this we learn that: 1. We can acknowledge that reacting instinctively isn't always the best approach; it's important to pause, breathe, and consider different perspectives before jumping to action[^1]. 2. We can recognise that "failures" are simply learning experiences. They offer valuable insights into our own behaviour and help us develop emotional intelligence. 3. Before you respond, consider the bigger picture, and choose the reaction wisely; you have the power to choose how you perceive the intent, use that for growth and positive change. [^1]: With email as an example, draft the response, but consider carefully before sending it; often the act of writing is cathartic enough that it enables you to think more clearly.