# On the Feeling of Being Wronged We've all been in that situation where you first feel like you've been wronged; it can feel personal, like a betrayal of trust. Anger flares, resentment builds and for a time, the desire for revenge might tempt you[^1]. [^1]: "The best revenge is not to be like that." \- Marcus Aurelius > And to behave in a conciliatory way when people who have angered or annoyed us want to make up. \- Marcus Aurelius This quote, while simple, offers profound wisdom; holding onto grudges is like carrying around a heavy stone that weighs you down and prevents you from moving forward. Instead of succumbing to the negativity, you should step back and analyse objectively. What happened? Was it intentional, or just a misunderstanding? Is there a lesson to be had? Sometimes the best course of action - no matter the answers - is to focus on moving forward, collaboratively. Letting go of those feelings isn't easy, it may take time, but it frees up the mental space for creativity and problem solving, and it ultimately fosters a more positive, and productive environment. We're all human and mistakes happen, choosing forgiveness and understanding over bitterness and resentment ultimately benefits everyone involved, even if sometimes we're not able to move on as quickly as we'd like to.